mechinism:

summary of my blog: i will never again be as good as the post you followed me for

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J.S. Bach - Brandenburg Concertos: BWV 1046–1051

Allegro moderato - Concerto No. 3 in G major, BWV 1048

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or in the middle of it…

ethiopienne:

or in the middle of it…

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"Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply."

Stephen R. Covey (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

I do this way too often.

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"When someone says ‘I have these two crystals if you rub them together you’ll get healthy.’ Rather than just discount it—because that’s as lazy as accepting it, both of those are just lazy brain—what you should do is inquire. So do you know how to inquire? Every scientist would know how to start that conversation. They would say ‘Well where did you get these? What kinds of ailments does it cure? How does it work? What does it cost? Can you demonstrate that it works?’ And you go through this… And at the end the person is in tears because they weren’t prepared for that level of questioning. So science literacy is vaccine against charlatans of the world that would exploit your ignorance of the forces of nature."

— Neil de Grasse Tyson, on the nature of scientific inquiry (via lavender-labia)

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Personal clustered spewdom about weddings. You were warned.

Yesterday gave way to a strange evening. I spent it at a wedding. I drank too much and in turn said too much, but I don’t suppose that’s the point.

Since I was pretty young I always had weird, conflicting feelings about not only the idea of marriage, but the the pomp and grandeur of weddings. All the money, preparation, and thought that goes into a single 9 hours(ish). The dress, the cake, the dreaded cha cha slide. Something about all of the kitsch and tradition turned me off.

In fact while there, I was still a bit put off by the shitty music and overly handled fondant that encapsulated the cake.

Still, there was something so earnest and endearing about the bride and groom and their close knit family that had me in tears more than once. The boyfriend too, felt it. We were pretty pathetic but that also made me happy. After a couple of beers we were both lamenting on what our wedding playlist would be. It became not a matter of “if but “when”.

As a result I started thinking…thinking thoughts I often try to push away as someone who tries to approach the idea of marriage honestly, as a woman and as a feminist. I might want this one day. I might want to tell my good friends and family how much I love Sean. I want them to witness how much we love each other. And I know how kind of…conceited and vain it all sounds in reality. It’s not even the dress or the cake or the frivolous details that have me captured. It’s the vows I could write and the songs we would dance to. What he would say in front of everyone.

Marriage has its problematic aspects. Maybe I am just infatuated with the idea more than anything. And I do wonder how much the power of social suggestion of “should” is it? I don’t know. Yet, I  strongly believe the foundation of feminism to be choice. And note, I DO NOT look down upon women or people who identify as women who choose this path. Being a wife is not mutually exclusive with whether or not one is a good feminist/womanist. These are my personal qualms and realizations being spewed in paragraphs.

yufeelme:

don’t trust anyone with a strong negative opinion on rap music

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maudelynn:

Happy Birthday to Josephine Baker!
June 3, 1906 – April 12, 1975
photo by Murray Korman

maudelynn:

Happy Birthday to Josephine Baker!

June 3, 1906 – April 12, 1975

photo by Murray Korman

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kemetically-ankhtified:

Young, Depressed, and Of Color: Why Schools and Doctors Get It Wrong

While black children aren’t often ceremoniously “put down like dogs”, they do face harsh school punishment at much higher rates than their white counterparts.
Jefferson Parish’s problems are symptomatic of a disease that’s already been diagnosed nationally: the  tendency to dole out harsher than average treatment for people of color. From the classroom to the clinician’s office, there’s a long and troubling relationship between racism and the mental health field.
Research has also shown that black students are… (read more)

if ure into this info, check out my essay on The Racial Disparities in Diagnosing and Treating Mental Health Disorders

kemetically-ankhtified:

Young, Depressed, and Of Color: Why Schools and Doctors Get It Wrong

While black children aren’t often ceremoniously “put down like dogs”, they do face harsh school punishment at much higher rates than their white counterparts.

Jefferson Parish’s problems are symptomatic of a disease that’s already been diagnosed nationally: the  tendency to dole out harsher than average treatment for people of color. From the classroom to the clinician’s office, there’s a long and troubling relationship between racism and the mental health field.

Research has also shown that black students are… (read more)

if ure into this info, check out my essay on The Racial Disparities in Diagnosing and Treating Mental Health Disorders

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whatthefuckilooklike:

We’re white feminists. We aren’t white just because our ancestors were mostly European. We are white because we regularly experience being identified as such by individuals and institutions that systematically favor those who appear white over those who don’t. We aren’t feminists just because we have degrees and teach in Gender and Women’s Studies. We are feminists because we are committed to dismantling the structures that systematically favor men over women, heterosexuals over non-heterosexuals, the rich over the poor, and, amongst many other oppressions, white people over people of color.

In order to address that oppression, we try to get people to talk frankly about race – never an easy task in a cultural paradigm that has been described as ‘colorblind racism,’ ‘race-evasive,’ and ‘racism without racists.’  Talking frankly about race doesn’t just mean pointing out hostile attitudes and narrow stereotypes based on race, though; it also means being honest about our own experiences as raced beings. It means talking about how we are embedded in racial systems, not disembodied and dispassionate viewers of them. It also means talking about how being against racism doesn’t mean that we don’t say and do racist things.

It means we need to have a conversation about white privilege.

But before we have that conversation, maybe we need to be clearer about what we talk about when we talk about white privilege—or, maybe what we really need to talk about is what we AREN’T talking about when we talk about white privilege.

What we mean is this: we’ve been doing this long enough to recognize some trends, first in our own reactions to being called out on our privilege and second, to see those reactions play out elsewhere. Therefore, we want to lay out some no-nonsense caveats that we hope can pre-empt some of these reactions, or at least make it so that we can move forward more quickly without having to keep copying and posting pieces of ‘Derailing for Dummies’ to get down to the stuff that lies beyond the defensive reactions.

So, let’s be clear. When we say that we/you have ‘white privilege’:

1. We don’t mean that we/you are intentionally acting in a bigoted way

2. We don’t mean that our/your biology is our/your destiny

3. We don’t mean that we/you aren’t oppressed in some other way

In the simplest way, recognizing one’s privilege is about recognizing that what you think, say, and do is affected by the fact that you have been and continue to be afforded certain unearned privileges on the basis of one or more parts of your identity. So, when you’re called out on your privilege, there’s one sure-fire tactic that you can use to keep the situation as productive as possible—LISTEN.

Chances are, the person isn’t trying to ‘out’ you as a racist, prove that you are stupid, or deny you your right to free speech. Chances are, the person is trying to get you to understand that there is a perspective other than your own and that your perspective is shaped by your experience and therefore cannot be expressed unilaterally or universally.

We know you didn’t ‘ask’ for privilege—but we also know that you can’t just give it up once you recognize you have it. You can’t just think really hard about it for a few hours, days, months, weeks, or even years and then one day stand up, dust yourself off, and yell ‘YES! I’m no longer privileged!’

Because of this, it’s worth acknowledging that those critical of talking about white privilege are right to say that these discussions alone aren’t going to solve the problem of white supremacy. Of course, it’s also worth acknowledging that nobody ever said they would. Rather, outing our privilege, reckoning with it, and addressing how the privileges that others experience affect us are all important elements for building the sorts of mass movements that will actually be able to challenge and overcome white supremacy, heteropatriarchy, capitalism and the numerous other forms of oppression that structure our lives.

These challenging conversations are necessary because, in the age of intensive plurality and diversity, any movement worth being part of is going to involve organizing across many forms of difference. Notice how we say ‘across’ and not ‘in spite of.’ We say that because it’s likely that most people in these movements will have at least one identity that provides systematic, unearned advantages – whiteness, maleness, heterosexuality, citizenship, able-bodiedness, etc. – and those same people will have other identities that provide systematic, unearned disadvantages. We need to recognize that the vast majority of people are both oppressed and oppressive in different ways, in different contexts, and in different moments.

Therefore, if you are on the receiving end of a question, suggestion, or rant about your white privilege, don’t get offended. Nobody’s accusing you of Klan membership, a biologically determined inability to fight injustice, or being The Man/Big Brother/Whitey/Hegemon. And nobody who’s pointing out the way privilege over-determines many of our ideas, opinions, and desires thinks that a conversation with you about privilege will end state and interpersonal violence, equalize the wealth, and get the land back into the hands of Indigenous peoples.

You’re receiving this talk about white privilege because we want to work together to rid this world of the various oppressions that make life worse for so many people. Overcoming the challenge that these forces present will require working across multiple forms of difference, and to do this we mustn’t forget that the challenges lie not in difference itself, but in the oppressions structured around difference. As Audre Lorde said so beautifully…

[…]it is not the differences between us that tear us apart, destroying the commonalities we share. Rather, it is our refusal to examine the distortions which arise form their misnaming, and from the illegitimate usage of those differences which can be made when we do not claim them nor define them for ourselves.

As feminists, we don’t want to participate in the use of oppressive force or reproduce any system that legitimates this force. As white people born in the U.S. who work at a university, we’ve benefited enormously from this very system we oppose. These contradictions will not be resolved in silence and, unless we work on recognizing and addressing them, we don’t expect for it to be easy for anyone who hasn’t shared our experiences to work with us.

We’re on a journey, a trip with a destination that we don’t expect to reach tomorrow; a journey towards understanding how experiences of privilege turn into flat tires and roadblocks on the trips we want to take away from ugly histories of oppression.

So, next time somebody invites you along for the ride, don’t wave them along—hop on.

I need this printed inside a hallmark card to hand some people I know!

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lacigreen:

from the latest Sex+: Fat Shame

I have a feeling that making rebloggable gifs for tumblr of these videos has been a very great marketing tool/idea because I went from never having heard of them to seeing them in my feed like twice every day!

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